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Quiz – Bids for Connection
Bids for Connection: The Building
Blocks of Emotional Connection
Reprinted courtesy The Gottman Institute
In Dr. John Gottman’s apartment lab at the University of Washington, he studies how people interact with one another under everyday circumstances. He has discovered that “bids for connection” happen at a very high rate between partners. For example, happy couples “bid” 100 times in ten minutes. What makes the bids so important? How those bids are made and responded to influences how well that relationship is going to fare over time. Read More »
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Quiz – How Well Do You Know Your Partner
How Well Do You Know Your Partner?
Reprinted courtesy The Gottman Institute
One of the most important features of successful couple relationships is the quality of the friendship. Do you know your partner’s inner world? Take the quiz below and fInd out. Read More »
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How to Talk to Your Partner About Couples Counselling
How To Talk To Your Partner About Couples Counselling In Order To Cultivate a Healthy, Loving Relationship
This brochure will help you to clearly and effectively discuss the issue of entering couples counselling with your partner.
This is not an easy process, so take it step-by-step beginning with clarifying some of the following concepts for yourself.
Understand what a loving committed relationship entails and what it takes to create such a relationship. Read More »
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Creating or Renewing Intimacy
Helpful Tips
Use the Past
Think about what has worked in similar situations in the past and consider how you can use that to help you this time. Read More »
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What Couples Can Do
Easing into parenthood is no easy task, here is what to expect.
Reprinted courtesy of Psychology Today
- Share expectations. Many husbands and wives neglect to share with each other their private notions of the ideal family. They assume that once they’ve decided to have a baby their ideal family picture will take place spontaneously. Others are reluctant to talk about their hopes and anxieties because they are afraid disagreement or conflict might result from finding that they differ on important issues. Read More »
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Love Stories
How you tell if the story of your marriage
predicts the future of your love.
Reprinted courtesy Ppsychology Today
The next time you or your spouse is asked to tell the story of your romance, try to listen as well. Lurking in the narrative are important clues to how the relationship is faring and how it will weather the future. Read More »
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An Arrangement of Marriages
The seven basic types of marriages
and what they’re built on.
Reprinted courtesy Psychology Today
Tolstoy wasn’t even half right. Happy couples are not all alike. Nor is every unhappy
family unhappy in its own way. Read More »
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Marriage Tips
Gottman’s Marriage Tips 101
Reprinted courtesy The Gottman Institute
Since 1973, Dr. John Gottman has studied what he calls the “masters and disasters” of marriage. Ordinary people from the general public took part in long-term studies, and Dr. Gottman learned what makes marriages fail, what makes them succeed, and what can make marriages a source of great meaning. Read More »
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Couple Therapy
WHY GO TO A COUPLE THERAPIST?
LIES OUWERKERK, MEd., MFT
Although the number of divorces in Canada greatly increased after the Divorce Laws came into effect in 1968, the divorce rate has remained more or less stable over the last few years. Overall, about one third of all marriages in Canada end in divorce, and the rate is somewhat higher for remarriages. Couples with marriages between three and five years are most likely to divorce; after five years, the risk of divorce decreases slowly for each additional year of marriage, and by age 65, divorce is relatively rare. Marriages in Newfoundland and Labrador have had the lowest divorce rate of all Canadian provinces. In Quebec, however, the divorce rate is highest, as is the percentage of cohabiting couples in Canada (who are generally more approving of divorce as a solution to their couple problems). But even when relationships don’t end in divorce, couples can have many reasons for not functioning well together, or feeling unhappy.
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AFFAIRS
SURVIVING AN AFFAIR IS TOUGH
LIES OUWERKERK, MEd, MFT
Affairs can have devastating consequences for intimate relationships. After the discovery of an infidelity, the first reactions of the betrayed partner are typically shock, disbelief, and a deep sense of loss, soon followed by anger, panic, and a shattered self esteem. These reactions may be accompanied by extreme mood swings, nightmares, obsessively analyzing the past, ruminating about the details of the affair, and anxiously waiting for further signs of betrayal.
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Quiz – Bids for Connection
Bids for Connection: The Building
Blocks of Emotional Connection
Blocks of Emotional Connection
Reprinted courtesy The Gottman Institute
In Dr. John Gottman’s apartment lab at the University of Washington, he studies how people interact with one another under everyday circumstances. He has discovered that “bids for connection” happen at a very high rate between partners. For example, happy couples “bid” 100 times in ten minutes. What makes the bids so important? How those bids are made and responded to influences how well that relationship is going to fare over time. Read More »
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Quiz – How Well Do You Know Your Partner
How Well Do You Know Your Partner?
Reprinted courtesy The Gottman Institute
One of the most important features of successful couple relationships is the quality of the friendship. Do you know your partner’s inner world? Take the quiz below and fInd out. Read More »
Posted in Couples | Comments (0)
How to Talk to Your Partner About Couples Counselling
How To Talk To Your Partner About Couples Counselling In Order To Cultivate a Healthy, Loving Relationship
This brochure will help you to clearly and effectively discuss the issue of entering couples counselling with your partner. This is not an easy process, so take it step-by-step beginning with clarifying some of the following concepts for yourself.
Understand what a loving committed relationship entails and what it takes to create such a relationship. Read More »
Posted in Couples | Comments (0)
Creating or Renewing Intimacy
Helpful Tips
Use the Past
Think about what has worked in similar situations in the past and consider how you can use that to help you this time. Read More »
Posted in Couples | Comments (0)
What Couples Can Do
Easing into parenthood is no easy task, here is what to expect.
Reprinted courtesy of Psychology Today
- Share expectations. Many husbands and wives neglect to share with each other their private notions of the ideal family. They assume that once they’ve decided to have a baby their ideal family picture will take place spontaneously. Others are reluctant to talk about their hopes and anxieties because they are afraid disagreement or conflict might result from finding that they differ on important issues. Read More »
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Love Stories
How you tell if the story of your marriage
predicts the future of your love.
predicts the future of your love.
Reprinted courtesy Ppsychology Today
The next time you or your spouse is asked to tell the story of your romance, try to listen as well. Lurking in the narrative are important clues to how the relationship is faring and how it will weather the future. Read More »
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An Arrangement of Marriages
The seven basic types of marriages
and what they’re built on.
and what they’re built on.
Reprinted courtesy Psychology Today
Tolstoy wasn’t even half right. Happy couples are not all alike. Nor is every unhappy
family unhappy in its own way. Read More »
Posted in Couples | Comments (0)
Marriage Tips
Gottman’s Marriage Tips 101
Reprinted courtesy The Gottman Institute
Since 1973, Dr. John Gottman has studied what he calls the “masters and disasters” of marriage. Ordinary people from the general public took part in long-term studies, and Dr. Gottman learned what makes marriages fail, what makes them succeed, and what can make marriages a source of great meaning. Read More »
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Couple Therapy
WHY GO TO A COUPLE THERAPIST?
LIES OUWERKERK, MEd., MFT
Although the number of divorces in Canada greatly increased after the Divorce Laws came into effect in 1968, the divorce rate has remained more or less stable over the last few years. Overall, about one third of all marriages in Canada end in divorce, and the rate is somewhat higher for remarriages. Couples with marriages between three and five years are most likely to divorce; after five years, the risk of divorce decreases slowly for each additional year of marriage, and by age 65, divorce is relatively rare. Marriages in Newfoundland and Labrador have had the lowest divorce rate of all Canadian provinces. In Quebec, however, the divorce rate is highest, as is the percentage of cohabiting couples in Canada (who are generally more approving of divorce as a solution to their couple problems). But even when relationships don’t end in divorce, couples can have many reasons for not functioning well together, or feeling unhappy.
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AFFAIRS
SURVIVING AN AFFAIR IS TOUGH
LIES OUWERKERK, MEd, MFT
Affairs can have devastating consequences for intimate relationships. After the discovery of an infidelity, the first reactions of the betrayed partner are typically shock, disbelief, and a deep sense of loss, soon followed by anger, panic, and a shattered self esteem. These reactions may be accompanied by extreme mood swings, nightmares, obsessively analyzing the past, ruminating about the details of the affair, and anxiously waiting for further signs of betrayal.
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